The Line In the Sand and Self Love

I’ve just made a decision, supporting or voting for 45 is now a deal breaker. I don’t want to have people or family who support white supremacy or racism in my life. I got no time for it and I refuse to justify my right to safety in my body and community to anyone, least…

The Sum of 25 Years

As I prepare to move from my home for the last 25 years and two months, I am deeply reflective about what I sacrificed and gained by staying in this little rural bubble for so long. While I’ve been here, I’ve lost numerous people who I loved deeply, I’ve missed grieving these losses with family…

It’s a Mind Fuck Being Biracial

So imagine being near 50 years old and being struck by your own racial identity in all of the complexity, beauty, and complication wrapped around that. It’s both glorious and infuriating. At least for me it is. I’ve had a couple of things happen over the last few years that have made me consider my…

Identity and Suspicion

I think I have struggled with my identity for as long as I can remember. A biracial child born into and raised in a white family, in white communities, and attending white schools. I was often the one black kid in my classes. I was definitely the only one in the two parts of my…

To My Daughter

My dearest daughter, As you get ready to embark on the next chapter of your life, I want to be sure that I share some advice with you. I’m sure we will both be too busy and too emotional for me to remember all the little things I have not yet taught you. So as…

Free Speech and White Terrorism

I have a question. When did so many people become so comfortable with Naziism and the KKK? I have another question. Why has the U.S. not officially branded Nazi groups and the KKK as terrorist groups? A common refrain has been on constant loop since the events in Charlottesville, VA and it has all simply…

Medicaid, Healthcare, and Me

I am so angry…again, still…it is really never-ending the depths of my anger and the ongoing atrocities the current Republican controlled administration from the president, Congress, and SCOTUS keep heaping on us. A.N.G.R.Y. The current plans of both the House and the Senate to gut the Affordable Care Act and replace it with their latest…

Untitled: Resisting The Spiraling Pit of Despair

I have been talking to and hearing from so many of my friends lately. As each new executive policy is signed, we all look on in horror at the latest and greatest efforts to undermine and repeal every last shred of decency, democracy, and bit of progress made over the last 60-70 years. These are…

Dressing Up White Supremacy

  My son was a sophomore in high school when I began fully realizing or becoming cognizant of the fact that white supremacy was still palpable in this country. See he had left home after we had had an argument. I was frantic trying to find him. I had joined MySpace that year in an…

Arguing with Expert, Evidence, and Truth

I live in the realm of knowledge – the quest for and creation of. With the proliferation of social media, whitewashed news coverage and stories, and a heightened skepticism of education, people have clap back with quips like, “well that is your opinion,” or “everyone has an opinion,” or “I present my facts, you present…

Dormant Racism and Distrust

I am perhaps more angry than I have been in a very long time. And this anger comes from a much deeper place than any anger I have experienced before. And I am hurt. More hurt than I have been in a very long time and deeper than any hurt I have experienced before. And…