Family Secrets and Life Choices

Sometimes life breaks us apart into pieces we spend the rest of our lives trying to find and piece back together. We may stumble upon a piece of ourselves as we are just going about living our lives and sometimes we conduct an exploration to find some of the pieces of ourselves lying about the…

I’m Exhausted

Maybe it’s because my last kid has left the house and is in college. Or maybe it’s because I’m approaching the rounding the final bend to 50. Maybe I’m experiencing a mid-life crisis. Or maybe it’s because I find myself at a crossroads. Regardless of the reason, I’m realizing how deeply exhausted I am. I…

It’s a Mind Fuck Being Biracial

So imagine being near 50 years old and being struck by your own racial identity in all of the complexity, beauty, and complication wrapped around that. It’s both glorious and infuriating. At least for me it is. I’ve had a couple of things happen over the last few years that have made me consider my…

2019: My New Hope

A colleague asked me the other day what my work-related hope was and it got me thinking. I want to think larger than work. I know things are beyond horrible for so so many people and there seems to be some new horror daily, if not hourly. But I think maybe there are few glimmers…

Grief and Suicide

Originally published July 3, 2012 Emile Durkheim, one of the seminal founders of sociology as a discipline, studied suicide at the end of the 19th century. His findings underscored many ideas that modern society still recognizes. One of his findings, in particular, has stuck with me, 15 years after my sociology coursework. The finding? That suicide in modern…

My DNA Results

I received my DNA results from Ancestry.com on June 29. I was so excited to learn more about my heritage that I stopped what I was doing and opened the results. Turns out that what I thought I knew about my white half was pretty accurate. Few surprises there (well one but I’ll get to…

Tracing My DNA

Well I finally just ordered my Ancestry.com DNA kit. I’m not sure how I feel about this or if I am ready for this. I have never known my biological father – who he is, where he is, anything about him or that part of my bio-family. I have often wondered. I’ve wondered if I…

Sexual Violence, Children, and Living Beyond

Last night my daughter sent a screen shot of an alert message sent by her university regarding the assault of a woman on campus slightly over 2 hours after the incident. My immediate reaction was “YAY! I’m so glad her university is on top of this stuff and alerting campus to the incident.” And I…

Me and my dogs

I have two dogs. Two dachshunds, wiener dogs, doxies. One has long red hair, he’s Rusty. We got him when he was just months old and my daughter was around 5. He’s been through a lot with us. For years all my daughter could talk about was getting another dog. I was going through a…

Day Dreaming Would Be Heroes

With the latest mass school shooting (to distinguish from the smaller/lesser/fewer deaths – what a disgustingly absurd characteristic to describe and explain) in Parkland, FL just about two weeks ago, the usual histrionics have been well underway, the hateful media sludge has created conspiracy theorists, and the surviving students have been organizing local and inspiring…

A Reading Journey in Books: 2017

I have always like to read. At times in my life I read a lot. Other times, I read very little. Some years, I read nothing other than cereal boxes, school supply lists, and the day to day things we all need to read in order to navigate our lives. Sometimes life gets busy as…